The happier relationship
you both want
Balancing household responsibilities is the #3 factor in relationship satisfaction—right after fidelity and sex.
Check Your Mental Load Balance →The Key Insight
Perceived fairness matters more than perfect equality. Couples don't need to split everything 50/50 to be happy—they need both partners to feel the arrangement is fair and to feel appreciated for their contributions.
Discover Your Mental Load Balance →You're both trying.
So why does it feel so hard?
Most couples want the same things: to feel appreciated, to communicate openly, to be happy together. But something's getting in the way.
Different Pictures
You both probably think you're doing your fair share. And here's the thing—from your own perspective, you probably are.
Partner A thinks: "I do about 50%"
Partner B thinks: "I do about 70%"
You're both sincere. But those perspectives don't match.
The Invisible Work
Some work is visible: dishes, laundry, cooking.
Some work is invisible: remembering you're out of milk, planning meals for the week, tracking when the car needs service, organizing social obligations, coordinating everyone's schedules.
Research shows mothers spend 5 hours weekly on this mental load vs 2 hours for fathers—even when both work full-time.
The Cost
When perspectives don't match:
- One partner feels invisible and unappreciated
- The other partner feels criticized out of nowhere
- Resentment builds (even when you don't want it to)
- Communication becomes defensive
- Intimacy decreases
- You're working against each other instead of together
Ready to see the full picture?
Stop guessing. Start understanding. Find out what's really happening in your household.
Take the 3-Minute Assessment →When you both see the same picture, everything shifts
It's not about proving who's right or keeping score. It's about both of you understanding what the other is experiencing.
When partners can see what's been invisible—the planning, the remembering, the coordinating—conversations change. From defensive to curious. From "I do enough" to "I had no idea you were handling all that."
Research insight: Feeling seen and appreciated matters as much as—or more than—achieving perfect equality. (Gordon et al., 2022)
See what your partner sees.
Build the relationship you both want.
Marbles helps couples get on the same page by making invisible work visible.
Your own perspective
Visual breakdown of who handles what
Your partner's perspective
How they see the same household
Where you align
Tasks you agree about
Where you differ
The gaps causing friction
Why This Works
For the partner carrying more:
Finally feel seen. Your contributions are measured, not minimized. You're not imagining it—and now you both can see it.
For the partner doing less:
Understand what you've been missing. See the invisible work your partner has been doing. Be the partner you want to be.
For both of you:
Have conversations grounded in data, not competing memories. Build the partnership you both deserve.
Getting started takes 3 minutes
A simple assessment that could change your relationship for years to come.
Answer a few questions
Quick context about your household—takes less than a minute
Assign tasks
Go through common household tasks and assign them to yourself, your partner, both, or neither. Use your gut reaction—don't overthink it.
See your results
Beautiful visualization showing your mental load distribution
Compare with your partner
When you both complete it, see where your perspectives align and where they differ
Talk about it
Use the data to have the conversations you've been wanting to have—productively, not defensively
The relationship outcomes you both want
Better Communication
Research shows that equitable contributions correlate with communication quality. When both partners feel heard and appreciated, you talk more openly and fight less defensively.
More Intimacy
Research shows couples who share household work report higher sexual satisfaction—not just more frequency, but better quality. Equity signals partnership and respect, both of which support intimacy.
Less Resentment
When both partners understand the full picture, resentment decreases. You're not fighting about who did or didn't do something—you're working together to build something better.
Lasting Satisfaction
Studies tracking couples over 20 years found that equity matters throughout the entire relationship, not just the honeymoon phase. Addressing it now builds a foundation for long-term happiness.
Feeling Appreciated
When invisible work becomes visible, both partners gain appreciation. You see contributions you've been taking for granted. You feel valued for work that was previously unseen.
Want these outcomes for your relationship?
Start with understanding. The rest follows naturally.
Frequently Asked Questions
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